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FOOD ADDICTS PHONE MEETING FORMAT (revised March, 2020)Please read slowly and clearly, for all to understandINTRODUCTIONWelcome to the (day) (time) group of Food Addicts. This meeting is one hour and15 minutes. My name is from . I am a recovering food addictand your leader for this meeting. After a moment of silence, will those who wish to please joinme in the SERENITY PRAYER.(PAUSE: Recite Serenity Prayer)The Coordinator will now place all callers on mute (*5). Please do not press STAR 6 onyour phone to unmute until you are ready to speak, then press STAR 6 again tomute when you have finished speaking. When speaking, please announce yourname and where you are calling from. When you are done speaking, please repeatyour name and where you are calling from.If you are dropped from the call and have trouble dialing back in, there is an alternate numberyou can try: 781-838-3229. The access code remains the same.In order to keep our meeting safe for everyone, and avoid cross talk and confusion,we ask that you not interrupt the phone call for any reason. This includes questionsabout phone numbers, problems with volume level or background noise, or anyadvice or correction to the person speaking. The moderator and coordinator willhandle any problems, and phone numbers will be given out at the end of the call.Thank you!PREAMBLEWe are a fellowship of individuals who, through shared experience and mutual support, arerecovering from food addiction.We welcome all who want to stop eating addictively. There are no dues or fees for members; weare self-supporting through our own contributions, neither soliciting nor accepting outsidedonations. We are not affiliated with any public or private organization, political movement,ideology, or religious doctrine. We take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is toabstain from addictive eating and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer.We would like to encourage those who do not yet have 90 days of abstinence to volunteer toread. To be a reader, just arrive 10 to 12 minutes early to the phone call and sign up. Please besure to download the readings for this meeting from the foodaddictsphonemeetings.org website.Our readings are not identical to face-to-face meeting readings.Would (name & location) please read the DEFINITION OF A FOODADDICT?

DEFINITION OF A FOOD ADDICTFood addiction is a disease of the mind, body and spirit for which there is no cure, but itcan be arrested a day at a time by our adapting to a disciplined way of eating and aTwelve Step program. When we abuse food by using it as a drug, our lives becomeunmanageable.Food addicts have an allergy to flour, sugar and quantities that sets up anuncontrollable craving. The problem can be arrested a day at a time by the action ofour weighing and measuring our food and abstaining completely from all flour andsugar.We define abstinence as weighed and measured meals with nothing in between, noflour, no sugar and the avoidance of any individual binge foods.In a moment we will introduce ourselves.Please make sure you are in a quiet place, so everyone can be heard.Is there anyone on this call today for the first time? Please unmute with *6 and introduceyourself by your first name, and tell us where you are calling from. We would like to welcomeyou.Would everyone who cares to, please say your name and where you are calling from? If youoverlap with someone else, just repeat your information if you don’t think we heard you.Leader continues:If you have not already done so, please be sure you are muted by pressing *6. Do not press *6 onyour phone to unmute until you are ready to speak, and then return to mute when you arefinished speaking.Our food addiction recovery program is based upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions ofAlcoholics Anonymous. We will now read “How It Works” from page 58 of AA’s BIG BOOK.AA has asked us to leave the text of “How It Works” intact, so the words “alcohol” and“alcoholic” remain.Now (name & location) will read “How It Works”.HOW IT WORKSRarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those whodo not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to thissimple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of beinghonest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seemto have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developinga manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less thanaverage. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders,but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.

Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, andwhat we are like now. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing togo to any length to get it - then you are ready to take certain steps.At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But wecould not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless andthorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on to our old ideas andthe result was nil until we let go absolutely.Remember we deal with alcohol - cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help it is too muchfor us. But there is One who has all power - that One is God. May you find Him now!Half measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point. We asked Hisprotection and care with complete abandon. Here are the steps we took, which aresuggested as a program of recovery.Now (name & location) will read THE TWELVE STEPS, as adapted forour food addict group.TWELVE STEPS1.We admitted we were powerless over food- that our lives had becomeunmanageable.2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as weunderstood Him.4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature ofour wrongs.6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends tothem all.9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do sowould injure them or others.10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptlyadmitted it.11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact withGod as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and thepower to carry that out.12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carrythis message to food addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

(Leader continues): The following passage is from the Big Book, page 60:Many of us exclaimed, "What an order! I can't go through with it." Do not be discouraged. Noone among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. Weare not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles wehave set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the agnostic, and our personal adventures beforeand after make clear three pertinent ideas:(a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives.(b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism.(c) That God could and would if He were sought.Now (name & location) will read THE TWELVE TRADITIONS, asadapted.TWELVE TRADITIONS1.2.Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on unity.For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority —a loving God as Hemay express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trustedservants; they do not govern.3. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop eating addictively.4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups orfood addicts as a whole.5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the foodaddict who still suffers.6. A food addict group ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to anyrelated facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, andprestige divert us from our primary purpose.7. Every food addict group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outsidecontributions.8. We should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employspecial workers.9. We ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committeesdirectly responsible to those they serve.10. Our group has no opinion on outside issues, hence our name ought never bedrawn into public controversy.11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; weneed always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films.12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us toplace principles before personalities.

The DISCIPLINES of this meeting are:1. We suggest no smoking, food, drinks or gum, please.2. This is a meeting. Although multi-tasking is a strong temptation, we ask that you setaside this time so you can focus on your recovery. In order to receive the gifts of living inrecovery: physical, mental, and spiritual well-being; you will be helped by refrainingfrom any activity that might distract you.3. We suggest that you participate from a quiet, private location where you will not beinterrupted by anyone, including, children, babies or pets. Please treat this as you woulda face-to-face meeting. Any child who may have joined you on this call because theyidentify themselves as having a problem with food should be old enough to understandanonymity.4. Please remember that naming specific foods, or even describing them without a name,may trigger cravings for some members.SEVENTH TRADITION: As there are no expenses for this meeting, we suggest youcontribute to your favorite face-to-face meetings.Are there any Food Addicts or AWOL announcements?(Leader pauses to see if anyone wishes to make an announcement.) We have a telephone meeting website which will list information on all telephonemeetings. That website address is: www.foodaddictsphonemeetings.org. You can find outabout AWOLS, which are a study of the Twelve Steps, at www.phoneawols.com. We have a telephone list for those at the telephone meetings; if you would like to be addedto this list, please send an email to: [email protected] note Phone List in the subject line and include your name, city and state, phonenumber and if applicable your skype/viber information and if you are on WhatsApp forinternational callsAgain, we remind you to please not interrupt the call for any reason, to avoid confusionand too many voices at once. Phone numbers will be given out at the end of the meeting.The moderator will handle any other issues that come up on the call. Thank you!SERVICEThe readings and meeting format are posted on the website. Please go towww.foodaddictsphonemeetings.org and download Telephone Meeting documents. Please havethese readings available so you can do service by volunteering to read. This is a wonderful wayfor those with less than 90 days of abstinence to do service. To volunteer to be a reader, justcome on the call 10-12 minutes early. You do not need 90 days of abstinence to read.If you have 6 months or more of continuous abstinence and are willing to do service as: A leader for this meeting, which means reading the format, as I’m doing now, OR

If you have 90 days of continuous abstinence and would like to do service as acoordinator, who pushes the mute/unmute buttons, OR A speaker with 90 days of continuous abstinence, telling your recovery story at themeeting or sharing on a reading,Then please stay on the call after the meeting and give us your contact information.We would like to encourage everyone, especially those who do not yet have 90 days ofcontinuous abstinence, to read one of the TOOLS OF RECOVERY.TOOLS OF RECOVERY(name & location) has volunteered to read ABSTINENCE: : We obtainabstinence from addictive eating by weighing, measuring, and committing our food to aqualified sponsor. We have found that we must abstain completely from all flour andsugar.(name & location) has volunteered to read SPONSORSHIP: We ask aqualified SPONSOR to guide us through the recovery program on all three levels:physical, mental, and spiritual. Sponsors are committed to abstinence and to living theTwelve Steps and Twelve Traditions to the best of their ability. Sponsors share theirprogram up to the level of their own experience. Ours is a program of attraction. Find asponsor who has what you want and ask how it was achieved.(name & location) has volunteered to read MEETINGS: We attendmeetings, which enable us to identify and share our experience, strength and hope witheach other. We have found that unless we give to newcomers what we have received fromthe program, we cannot keep it for ourselves.(name & location) has volunteered to read TELEPHONE: Food addiction isa disease of isolation. The telephone is a means of communicating with another addictbetween meetings:a. We begin by committing our food daily to our sponsor.b. We share hope with each other.c. We have immediate contact with another Food Addict in times of stress.d. We call before we take the bite.(name & location) has volunteered to read ANONYMITY: Anonymity is thespiritual foundation of our program and is essential for our recovery. In order to get well,we must be able to speak openly and to trust one another. We reach out to help, but we donot gossip. What you hear at this meeting, stays at this meeting. Each person’s story is hisor hers