Dr. Barbara KeeslingHow to Make Love All Night (and Drive a Woman Wild)Male multiple orgasm and other secrets for prolongedlovemakingby Dr. Barbara Keesling, Ph.D.Copyright 1994This book is dedicated to my clients
How to Make Love All NightCONTENTSIntroductionAcknowledgmentsONEMaking Fantasy a RealityTWOMeet Your PenisTHREE Talking to Your Partner About Male MultipleOrgasmFOURThe Complete PC WorkoutFIVEMale Multiple Orgasm-The Secret RevealedSIXLearning to Touch, learning to FeelSEVEN Aroused and AwareEIGHT Orgasm, Ejaculation, and YouNINEFrom Peaks to PlateausTENYour First Multiple OrgasmELEVENPractice, Practice, PracticeTWELVESuccess!APPENDIXONEInteresting Things to ReadWhen You're Not Having SexAPPENDIXTWOMale Sexual Organs(diagram)
Dr. Barbara KeeslingIntroductionDaniel and Allison have been making love on arainy Sunday morning, and they are both totally turned on.It started in the shower with a slow massage and moved tothe bedroom, where they have been having intercourse forthe past ten minutes. Daniel knows that Allison needs atleast another five minutes of intercourse before she canclimax. Here's the problem: Daniel doesn't think he hasfive minutes left in him.If Daniel continues having intercourse the way hehas for the past ten minutes, it may be only a matter ofseconds before he has an orgasm. He thinks about slowingdown or stopping, but to break the rhythm now would onlymake it more difficult for Allison to climax-he knows thatAllison is at that stage where any kind of change in hismovement would only frustrate her. Besides, if he tried tostop or to change the rhythm, Daniel could lose strength inhis erection, which would complicate matters even further.This dilemma is making the whole experience alot less pleasurable for Daniel. The first few minutes of sexwere pure excitement, but now he is worried andconflicted. It is hard to enjoy sex when you're fighting yourown body. Truth is, you really can't enjoy sex when you'refighting your own body. And neither can your partner.What Daniel does not yet know is that he hasanother option: male multiple orgasm. The multiorgasmicman has staying power. He doesn't have to hold back. Hedoesn't have to fight his own body and deny himself hisown pleasure. He can enjoy all of the erotic sensations ofintercourse, have a full orgasm, and keep going! If hewishes, he can have a second orgasm, and keep going! Hecan last as long as his partner wishes, experience all of theexcitement and release, and keep going! For themultiorgasmic man, the sky is truly the limit.Daniel is not the only man who has this excitingoption. Today, techniques have been perfected to makemale multiple orgasm an option for almost every man! Age
How to Make Love All Nightdoesn't matter. Previous experience doesn't matter. Youngor old, virgin or veteran, all you need is the desire, yourpenis, and a few minutes a day. So don't stop now. Turnthe page and cross the threshold into a whole new sense ofyour own sexuality and a whole new relationship for youand your partner.
Dr. Barbara KeeslingAcknowledgmentsThere are many people I would like to thank.First, I wish to thank my colleagues, Anita Banker andMichael Riskin, for helping develop many of thesetechniques. I would like to thank my agent, BarbaraLowenstein, for recognizing the value of this project. Iwish to thank my editor, Susan Moldow, and her staff,Nancy Peske and Wendy Silbert, for their veryconscientious work on this book. I would especially like tothank my clients who tried out these techniques and gaveme their invaluable feedback. Finally, I would like to thankmy husband, John, for his computer work, his feedback onthe manuscript; and his support.
How to Make Love All NightSome of the exercises in this book involve orgasm. Havingan orgasm increases your heart rate. If you have a heartcondition or any other serious medical condition, pleaseconsult your physician before beginning this or any otherexercise program.
Dr. Barbara KeeslingCHAPTER ONEMaking Fantasy a RealityEvery woman dreams of being with a lover whosepassion is so intense and body is so strong that he can lastand last and last. Every man wants to be able to fulfillthose dreams. He wants to know that he can haveintercourse for as long as he wishes, bringing his partner toclimax after climax. It certainly sounds wonderful, but is itpossible?You are about to learn the secrets of malemultiple orgasm. By the time you have completed thisbook, your understanding of sexual potential and sexualpower will be changed forever. You will learn how toprolong lovemaking for as long as you and your partnerdesire. Men will learn how to master their own bodies.They will learn how to have complete, powerful orgasmswithout losing their erections, and how to have multipleorgasms -two, three, or even more-just like a woman.I know that this may be hard to believe. It's hardto imagine that such sexual powers could exist for anyone.Maybe for a twenty-year-old with unlimited energy orsome yogi with extraordinary abilities, or maybe at thebeginning of a torrid love affair, if you should be so lucky.But not for your average guy. No, for most normal menwith normal sexual equipment, it seems like making loveall night whenever you want-no matter how long you'vebeen married or how old you are-is a fantasy. Until today.Today, everything is going to change; today, thosefantasies are going to come true.In this book, I'm going to teach men how toexplore and enjoy their sexuality in ways they may nothave believed possible. I'm going to prove to you that malemultiple orgasm is not just part of some romance writer'simagination, but an easily attainable reality. You are going
How to Make Love All Nightto discover how a multiorgasmic man can offer his partnera level of pleasure and fulfillment more intense than eitherone of them could have ever hoped for.The ability to control one's penis -to literally stayup all night-is not the exclusive domain of Eastern masters.There are plenty of men who have already learned tocontrol their erections in ways you would find hard toimagine. These men can have multiple orgasms withoutlosing their erections (two orgasms, three orgasms, or evenmore if they choose). They drive their women wild hourafter hour, night after night. They're doing it right now-andthey'll still be doing it long after you've gone to sleep.These men are not sexual supermen. They arenormal, average guys. Some are young, some are old,some are tall, some are small, some are thin, some areoverweight, some are bashful, and some are bold. Somehave large penises, some have small penises, some havethick penises, and some have slender penises. Some havesex once a week, and some have sex almost every day. Theonly thing these men all have in common is the desire toplease themselves and pleasure their partners, and thediscipline to master a simple technique.I know over two hundred of these men personally.They are not friends or lovers, but they are men who havelearned the secrets of male multiple orgasm and stayingpower at the various therapy clinics where I have worked.Over the past ten years, I have had the opportunity to trainmore than one hundred of these men, one on one, fromstart to finish. The rest are men whose training andprogress I have been at least partially involved withthrough my clinical work.What I'm trying to say, without soundingintimidating or otherwise off-putting, is that I have seenmany men become multiorgasmic and increase theirstaying power. And there is something extremelyimportant you need to know before you read any further: Ihave never met a motivated man who couldn't master the
Dr. Barbara Keeslingtechniques that lead to male multiple orgasm. Never. Iknow that every man who reads this book and follows theexercises I describe can master these techniques too.If you are a woman reading this book,extraordinary surprises and unimaginable pleasures awaityou. Whether you choose to work with your partner as helearns these techniques, or be a supportive bystander, yourunderstanding of what it means to be intimate with a manis about to be redefined forever.If you are a man reading this book, you are, aboutto enter into a new relationship-a new and excitingrelationship with your own penis. You will never be thesame. The payoffs are unlimited-payoffs for you, payoffsfor your partner, and payoffs for your relationship. By thetime you finish this book and complete the simpleexercises I describe, you will be a changed man. Afteryou've had your first multiple orgasm, you won't believeyou waited this long, but you will believe in yourself andin the power of your own sexuality.What Makes Me Such an Expert?I know more about men's penises than most mendo. It's my job. I'm a sex therapist.I'm also a former sex surrogate. A female sexsurrogate is someone who teaches men how to control andimprove their sexual performance and enjoy their ownsexuality.To be a sex surrogate you have to know men andyou have to know men's penises. Truth is, you have toknow men's penises better than most men do. Sure, thetypical man knows what he likes and dislikes, he knowshis strengths and weaknesses, and he may even be keenlyaware of his fears and what he believes to be hislimitations. But from where I sit, this awareness is verylimited. When you work with hundreds of men, you seethings that no one man could ever see for himself. Yourecognize how easy it is for a man to have sexual tunnel
How to Make Love All Nightvision because of the limitations of his own experience.You also realize how different men are, and how muchthere is to learn from the experiences of other men.I Know What Men Can Do and I Know What Women WantI have made the study of human sexual responsemy life's work. I know what the average man's truecapabilities are, and believe me, they are far more than youcould-ever imagine.I know what women want too because I'm not justa sex therapist-I'm also a woman. I understand how awoman feels when she's in bed with someone she loves.On a professional basis, I've listened to countless womentalk about their lovemaking. But even more revealing insome ways are the hours I have spent talking about sexwith women friends, all of us letting our hair down andtelling the truth about what we like and what we want.Even a woman who loves a man very deeply canfeel frustrated and unfulfilled by his sexual limitations.Unfortunately, many women equate sex with compromiseand sacrifice. Few women regularly experience the kind oflovemaking they dream of, and even fewer believe it'sactually possible. That's the bad news. The good news isthat this is about to change.If you are a woman looking for more satisfactionfrom your partner and more understanding for yourself, I'mgoing to teach you everything you and your partner need toknow about male multiple orgasm. If you are a man who isreading this book, I want you to think of me as a personaltrainer-someone who can teach you the techniques andexercises that will change everything you have everbelieved about sex.Can We Talk?Remember that big "talk" you had about sex withyour dad when you were just a kid? Who could forget it? Itwas probably one of the most awkward moments of your
Dr. Barbara Keeslingchildhood, right? Sure he did the best he could, but youprobably were left to fill in a whole lot of gaps by yourself.Well, it's time for another talk. This time, you and 1 needto talk about sex . . . really talk. If you have a partner, sheshould listen too. I'm not going to pull any punches here.When it comes to sex, there are a lot of things most peoplejust don't know. I'm not talking about sexual trivia-I'mtalking about the critical things that stop most people fromever having a truly fulfilling sex life.Please don't get insulted. I know that you know alot about sex. Everyone does, whether they want to or not.After all, it's a subject that's hard to avoid in the nineties.Turn on the TV, plug in the radio, open a book, go to themovies, flip through a magazine . . . what do you see? Sex,sex, sex. From Howard Stern to Melrose Place, fromDonahue to pay-per-view, we're getting educated byosmosis . But that doesn't mean it's a very good education.Knowing a lot about sex is not the same as beingsexually fulfilled. Knowing a lot about sex doesn't alwayschange what happens in the bedroom. No matter howmuch you've heard, read, and seen, sex can still feel likethe greatest mystery in the world. No one likes to feel,insecure about something as important as sex, but the truthis, at some point everyone feels as though everyone else onthe planet is making love more often and more exquisitelythan they are. Sometimes it feels as though all of thissexual education has only made us more unsure.It's time to change all that and start filling in all ofthose gaps once and for all. I couldn't think of a betterplace to start than learning about male multiple orgasm,which will change everything you ever thought you knewabout sex. In fact, it will change everything. Period. Itcertainly did for me and for the many men and womenwith whom I've worked. I'm sure it will for you too.
How to Make Love All NightTwo Men Who Changed My Understanding of MaleSexualityMale multiple orgasm. Wow! What a concept. I'llnever forget how skeptical I felt when I first heard about itback in 1980. It was my second week of "basic training"for sexual surrogates at the Riskin-Banker PsychotherapyCenter in Tustin, California.Sex therapy is an important area of specializationat Riskin-Banker, and part of their therapeutic workinvolves the use of surrogates, both male and female. As itturns out, two of the male surrogates who worked there atthe time were both capable of achieving multiple orgasm.On certain occasions, they actually used these techniquesduring work with their female clients.If I hadn't actually known these two menpersonally, I might have never believed such a thing waspossible. Sure, I knew all about multiple org